By Elizabeth Weill-Greenberg
The New Jersey Supreme Court decision
on same-sex marriage was good. It could have been better but it’s good. Hopefully the legislature
will not simply create civil unions for gay couples, like in Vermont,
but create one category for all New Jerseyans: either marriage for all
or civil unions for all. That’s the only way to make it truly equal.
And for the sake of simplicity they should just extend marriage rights
to gay couples, rather than have couples before 2006 married and after,
civil union-ed, or something like that.
It seems so silly that the government
knows or cares about who we date or marry. I work part-time at a staffing company
and I always feel silly and intrusive when I have to ask an employee
who forgot to fill out a W-4: “Are you single or married?” I feel
like it sounds as if my follow-up questions will be: What are you wearing
and can I smell your panties?
A wedding should be a state-free affair
that’s about buying a new dress or suit and eating french fries, steak
and ice cream cake – or whatever your favorite foods are.
But nevertheless marriage is the imperfect
system we have and it gives couples and families all sorts of necessary
protections – health insurance, custody rights, and medical decision
making rights, just to name a few. So if this is what we’ve got, the
protections have to be equally available to both straight and gay couples.
Take Action
Contact your state representative and
ask them to create one system for all New Jerseyans – either civil
unions or marriage. They have 180 days to implement the court’s decision.
Garden State Equality has a handy form here.
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